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| Spot and Tyler live in a full time power exchange relationship. Spot is Tyler's Master. We got some insight in how their dynamic works and how their relationship is built. The lecture starts of with a presentation of Spot, where he told us that he got his name from his first Master. That master wanted the name to be something small and insignificant. Still to this day is the name something Spot uses, and he says that "X marks the Spot". Today Spot has his own House (House of Spot) with his slave. The are arranged as alpha, beta and omega. The hierarchy gives the slaves a safe way to arrange themselves and know who does what, but they don't have any power over the other slaves. Tyler is Spot's omega slave, and in House of Spot is one betaslave, but no alphaslave today. Spot and Tyler guides us through a lot of concepts that you can encounter within the power exchange world. We get defined what rules, protocol and cermonies are to them. Rules is equal to what to do. Protocol is how to do it and can be seen as the embodyment of the power exchange. A cermony is a ritual or celebration. Spot tells us that it is common that this is something that is that people do in a lot of different types of BDSM relationships, but it is a little more unusual that it's actually written down, and he points out that there is a lot of benefits to explicitly write down both rules and protocol. Both of wich are living documents that can be updated, added to and are easily adjusted to exactly the relationship where they matter. It is also benificial for keeping consent going. Every month Tyler and Spot have a talk where they check in with eachother to see if theres anything that needs to be updated. There is also a contract between the two of them, to ensure that the protocol and the rules are followed. The protocol covers all pieces of life, from how to walk besides the Master, who the slave can play with and finances. This can sound pretty intense, but the whole point of the contract and the protocol is to help the other person better themself. Spot talks about the campfire rule, that he applies in his power exchange relationships: "Leave the people in better shape than you found them". The protocol is diveded into low, medium and high wich have different rules. The Master can never decline when the slave requests low protocol, and the slave can never decline when the Master requests high protocol. High protocol is when the slave is collared and low protocol is for example used when they have discussions or check ins about their relationships. However an direct order overrules the protocol. Spot and Tyler gives us an example of a rule in their protocol. Tyler is ordered to give Spot a glass of water. To serve the water he kneels and holds up the glass over his head with both of his hands. This is to strengthen the power exchange and the kneeling part is something that Tyler expresses that he likes; "Where the body goes, the mind follows". Another example of this is that Spot's slaves always should walk behind him. Spot stresses that a protocol doesn't have to be hard. It should be an living agreement that benifits both parties. The audience also got a chance to share their ideas of protocol and what they would like to try out. The room broke out in chatter at this point and a lot of interesting discussions where held. Spot and Tyler was for sure a very inspiring pair to listen to. Spot also mentions that we really should learn and "steal" from eachother, and he says that there are a lot of digital tools to help with a power exchange dynamic. |
With Spot and Tyler. A lecture from Pride House 2024
Tillagd 30 jul 2024 Reportage & intervjuer #Utlevnad #Master
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